Telling The Truth Is A Hard Thing To Do.
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Roseanne Cash, Black Cadillac album |
Have you ever asked yourself: Am I an imposter or the "real deal"? So many of my high flying clients have asked just that question.
Telling the truth is a hard thing to do. So sometimes we don't. Instead we push things out of our view, under the carpet. It's especially easy, (even a sanity-saver,) in environments that do not support our well being, much less our greatness. But the universe is fast giving us evidence that when we fail to tell the truth as fast as we can, breakdown results. It's quite apparent in today's headlines--continuing proof of process breakdown and an impending system implosion. Like our recent U.S. midterm election results demonstrate, only self-correction towards center will lead us to our next evolutionary breakthrough.
Alice, a 37yr old described how she felt like a total fraud. I immediately recognized what I call the Sham SyndromeSM taking over her world view. Having done all the right things to get ahead, she wanted to hide out, disappear into the woodwork. Now that she was promoted to a Senior Partner at a world renowned firm, Alice was sure the roof would fall in! She'd finally be found out!
Then there's Teresa, a gypsy of a soul, almost 50 yrs.old, who had struggled for her own truth for so long. Once a high-powered globe trotting marketing executive, she had stayed in a marriage that just didn't work anymore to protect the kids. Her marriage was so broken it could not be fixed. Finally she struck out on her own. Good fortune has shined on her.
Bill, a long time leader in his field just didn't know what he wanted to do next. Having had his fill of corporate life on the road, he wanted to shift gears so that he could be close to home base, do what he loves and still be in the game. He worried that he couldn't make a late mid-career change. Who would want him at his age? he'd worry. He was afraid he'd be found out, and not considered.
But life is too fleeting for feeding this dragon. Like the mythical heroes and goddesses of old, Ulysses and Inanna before us, we have come to a crossroads in our lives and in our time. If we are to transform the dragon, we must first tame it with honesty and truth telling... as fast as we can.
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